Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Bringing Up Bebe: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting by Pamela Druckerman


The author of this book is an American journalist living in Paris and raising her family there. While out in a restaurant with her husband and her 18-month-old daughter, she realizes that her lunch experience with a toddler in tow is a mess and a struggle, and not at all relaxing. Meantime, the French families around her, also with young children, are calmly enjoying their meals together. This experience prompts her to wonder, and then to research, what makes French parenting different from American parenting?

She finds that, in general, French kids start sleeping through the night around two months old, have a higher tolerance for waiting and frustration, and they eat well-rounded meals. French kids also seem to be in better control of themselves and more well-behaved.

Druckerman finds that the French view of what a child actually is and what he/she is capable of is quite different from the American view. 

This book was super interesting! It made me think that there’s another way to raise kids than how I see it done in the United States. For example, while American kids seem to be snacking all day long and mothers keep an endless supply of cheerios in their purses, French kids eat breakfast, lunch, afternoon snack, and dinner. When a child buys a treat from a bakery, she knows that it’s not to be eaten right away. The treat will be saved until the afternoon snack time.

I like that French kids are raised to eat well-rounded meals. They don’t just eat “kid food.” This is how Druckerman describes lunch at her daughter’s daycare: “Lunch is served in four courses: a cold vegetable starter, a main dish with a side of grains or cooked vegetables, a different cheese each day, and a dessert of fresh fruit or fruit puree” (p. 112). Cool, huh? I’d eat that. Especially the cheese!

I’d definitely recommend this book for some good food for thought. It's thoughtful and funny, and the author is quite likeable. It’s one of the most interesting books I’ve read so far in 2012.

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